Be cautious on adoption

Every happy family is similar, while unfortunate families tell different stories.

However, on this year's Children's Day we saw too many similar unfortunate kids whose families were broken up by the Wenchuan earthquake.

Many people across China and even from different parts of the world volunteered to adopt the orphans, showing care and love for the children who lost their beloved.

However, the volunteers should prepare enough both psychologically and economically, or else their passion might do harm to the children.

Every family runs in its own orbit, but a new family member may bring a lot of changes.

If a couple just adopts an orphan out of love instead of complete consideration, they can hardly adjust themselves to a special child.

In my opinion, it might be better to integrate the orphans into a group than to separate them into many different unfamiliar families.

The same experiences can make the children's hearts beat closer, and they will be treated as equal without any discrimination or special care.

Furthermore, the families which apply for adoption should also be thoroughly checked to determine whether they are qualified. Only passion is not enough to bring up children in a scientific way.

When the adopted children do something naughty, how should the foster parents respond? Criticism might hurt them, but turning a blind eye is also irresponsible.

Hence the decision-making needs careful thinking. There are various ways to express love, and volunteers can also help them financially.

We always wish every orphan to live amidst love.

Qingdanruju

On blog.sina.com.cn

Playing tricks doesn't always pay

What was probably more controversial than the outrage Sharon Stone provoked in China was an argument put forward by a young Chinese writer in defense of the 50-year-old actress .

The writer, Han Han, who is well-known for his literary talent , assumed a general lack of humanitarianism in "us" and called for reflections rather than outrageous condemnations.

Obviously, both Stone and Han underestimated the public's intelligence as it's not difficult to realize the former's tactic aimed at reviving her sagging business and the latter's campaign for his self-appointed ways of independent thinking.

Admittedly, fabulous ideas are popular in the entertainment world where its stars always trying to amuse their fans in a special way. However, without basic respect toward human beings, ideas may do exactly the opposite.

Though entertainment nowadays has increasingly become some tools to tease people, anger, frustration or any other kind of feeling released through this channel needs to be guided by the popular morality of the society.

Everyone wants to be a shinning star forever. However, tricks provoking controversies can only spin into the tale of a falling star.

Laohan

On blog.sina.com.cn

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(China Daily 06/11/2008 page9)