NEW YORK -"I was SHOCKED to see a giant breast on the cover of your
magazine," one person wrote. "I immediately turned the magazine face down,"
wrote another. "Gross," said a third.
These readers weren't complaining about a sexually explicit cover, but rather
one of a baby nursing, on a wholesome parenting magazine, yet another sign that
Americans are squeamish over the sight of a nursing breast, even as
breast-feeding itself gains more support from the government and medical
community.
Babytalk is a free magazine whose readership is overwhelmingly mothers of
babies. Yet in a poll of more than 4,000 readers, a quarter of responses to the
cover were negative, calling the photo - a baby and part of a woman's breast, in
profile inappropriate.
One mother who didn't like the cover explains she was concerned about her
13-year-old son seeing it.
"I shredded it," said Gayle Ash, of Belton, Texas, in a telephone interview.
"A breast is a breast - it's a sexual thing. He didn't need to see that."
It's the same reason that Ash, 41, who nursed all three of her children, is
cautious about breast-feeding in public - a subject of enormous debate among
women, which has even spawned a new term: "lactivists," meaning those who
advocate for a woman's right to nurse wherever she needs to.
"I'm totally supportive of it - I just don't like the flashing," she says. "I
don't want my son or husband to accidentally see a breast they didn't want to
see."
Another mother, Kelly Wheatley, wrote Babytalk to applaud the cover,
precisely because, she says, it helps educate people that breasts are more than
sex objects. And yet Wheatley, 40, who's still nursing her 3-year-old daughter,
rarely breast-feeds in public, partly because it's more comfortable in the car,
and partly because her husband is uncomfortable with other men seeing her
breast.
"Men are very visual," says Wheatley, 40, of Amarillo, Texas. "When they see
a woman's breast, they see a breast regardless of what it's being used for."
Babytalk editor Susan Kane says the mixed response to the cover clearly
echoes the larger debate over breast-feeding in public. "There's a huge
Puritanical streak in Americans," she says, "and there's a squeamishness about
seeing a body part, even part of a body part."
"It's not like women are whipping them out with tassels on them!" she adds.
"Mostly, they are trying to be discreet."
Kane says that since the August issue came out last week, the magazine has
received more than 700 letters, more than for any article in years.
"Gross, I am sick of seeing a baby attached to a boob," wrote Lauren, a
mother of a 4-month-old.
